Raising Proverbs 31 Women

Raising Proverbs 31 Women Series
Raising Proverbs 31 Women Series

Raising Proverbs 31 Women

A New Series

This past year I’ve spent a lot of time studying the Excellent Wife – The Proverbs 31 Woman.

She is someone I consider to be a great role model as a: Godly Woman, wife, mother, homemaker, and businesswoman.

When you read Proverbs 31:10-31 and really get to know her, you will see what a blessing she is to her husband, her children, and her community.  She is someone I am trying to model my life after.

After studying her for a while I started thinking:

I’m a Mama to two little girls, who will become women one day.
Why am I not already sharing this Proverbs 31 Woman with them?
How can I help them see that it is not “old fashioned” or “outdated” to strive to be her?

So, for the next 10 weeks, that’s what I want to share with you.  Each week we will take a couple of verses, relate them to today and discuss how to help our daughters develop a desire to follow in this excellent woman’s footsteps.

Proverbs 31:10-12 {ESV}

An excellent wife who can find?  She is far more precious than jewels.  The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.  She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

Her Marriage

These three verses speak to her marriage.  What kind of wife is she?  How does her husband see her as a wife?  “Far more precious than jewels” – this one struck me right away.  Diamonds and jewels are still seen as rare and valuable.  They are still seen as a status symbol – the bigger and more you have the more important you must be.  The same was true in biblical times too.  So to say, an excellent wife is far more precious than jewels, really should catch our attention.  What power and how important an Excellent Wife is.

  • Her husband trusts her completely – Trust is earned – it’s not something that is automatic.
  • He has no lack of gain – Whether this means his love, his family, his business or all of the above.  Don’t you want this for your husband?
  • She does him good…all the days of her life – This is not just what you do for your husband but how you speak about him and to him.  She takes her wedding vows seriously and she does him good – her entire life.

What does that look like today?

Notice that this starts off by letting you know that being an Excellent Wife is NOT going to be easy – but it can be done!  She is rare but real!  Trust is key – earning your husband’s trust is something that we should never take for granted.  Of course, you should trust each other before you take your vows, but know that it is something that can be lost too.  One of the ways you can make sure you continue to earn his trust is to do him good, and not harm, and guard it close to your heart.  This is something that is true no matter what year it is.

How do we teach this to our daughters?

  • First, let me start off by saying – You must practice what you preach!!!
  • Second – When you mess up.  Tell your daughters – I messed up!  I should not have done that!  And allow them to see you apologize for your mistake and ask for forgiveness!

Young Daughters:

Now obviously it depends on their ages what you discuss with them because it is your marriage.  For example, when my girls were very young, there was a lot that I would not cover with them yet.  BUT, if I roll my eyes at something their Daddy said, or maybe I’m not as nice to him as I should be.  If this is something I have done in front of them, I want to make sure I tell them: “That was not very nice of me.  Was I showing Daddy that I love him?  Do I need to apologize?  I need to make sure Daddy always knows I love him.”  Then, because they were there when I showed my husband disrespect, I want them to see me apologize as well.  I think this is a huge life lesson for them and should be started at a young age.

Join me each Monday as we dig deeper into this small passage of Scripture. How can we apply it to our lives? How can we guide our daughters to do the same?

Love Life, Love God and Live For HIM …

Homeschoolin' Mama with Meg Hykes